What techniques do you typically use to manage impulsive behavior?

I’ll use this as a writing prompt. If we rely exclusively on prompts we find here, we’re bound to fall short. Just the other day, I came across a question about dinosaurs that made me stop and think, “What?”

This got me considering: why not create prompts (or themes) for each other here? If we collaborate on them, they could rival even the most popular—but often silly—Wordpress writing prompts. What really matters, after all, is quality and authenticity. Developing the skill of asking thoughtful questions is invaluable, and I’ve been refining it over the years.

If you ever feel inspired to write on this theme, feel free to refer to this post in your own writing. This might even encourage you to come up with your own prompt. Now, here’s my perspective:

I still act on impulse at times. Reflecting on it, I’ve realized that impulsive actions are often driven by the lure of immediate rewards. That’s the dopamine effect at play. To counter this, we can learn to prioritize rewards that require significant time and effort rather than chasing instant gratification. The key is to take some time to reflect on the situation.

Immediate rewards can range from regaining a sense of control (even if it’s just temporary relief for a problem that remains unresolved) to satisfying a fleeting urge (like indulging in something momentarily pleasurable).

Here’s the technique I recommend for managing impulsive behavior:

1. Define the problem or need. Identify what’s truly driving your impulse.

2. Understand the reward involved. Recognize what immediate payoff you’re seeking. Look for an activity you use to enjoy that’s more productive in general and do these instead. Books, songs, movies… You name it.

3. Pause. Between these steps, take a deep breath. Give yourself space to reflect.

4. Here’s you cue to come up with your steps from this point on, adapted to your needs…

The more you practice this process, the easier it becomes to manage impulsive urges.